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This book is written to help you gain some of the amazing insights I have received from reading about and talking with these Giants. Hopefully, you will use these thoughts to help you find your own philanthropic passion! I believe every one of us has the capacity—and therefore the invitation—to help our fellow man. Today, someone needs your time, your wisdom, your talents, and your financial support. My hope is that Talking With Giants!TM inspires you to look at how you can give of yourself to help others and in turn, live a much more rewarding and fulfilled life! |
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SCOTT: You claim that social epidemics like drug abuse, school violence, adolescent suicide, and depression are, for the most part, the result of low self-esteem. Can you expand on this for us? JACK: I define self-esteem as being lovable and capable. If I feel worthy of happiness, I am worthy of love, and I also have other people who love me and want me to pursue my own pleasure and happiness. In low self-esteem situations, we see an increase in drug use because that person does not feel that his feelings are okay. He doesn’t have the skills necessary for reaching out and building relationships, or dealing with the sting of rejection. Therefore he turns to drugs and alcohol to numb the pain. In my seminars, I will ask certain people if there’s a reason they haven’t raised their hand. Their typical answer is that their problems are not that important, or that other people’s problems are more worthy of being talked about. These people feel they’re not worthy of taking up the group’s time. A lot of people suffer in silence. |
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SCOTT: Together with Jack Canfield and Les Hewitt, you wrote the book The Power of Focus. What can you tell us about the power of focus? MARK: Many times people are totally overwhelmed by their surroundings and circumstances. The number one reason that stops people from getting what they want is a lack of focus. But we can give a person the strategy necessary for them to achieve that focus. We work on getting past old patterns of procrastination and other habits that keep you from achieving your desired results. The power of focus helps you shift from feeling overwhelmed to the creation of an easy and effective action plan by consciously focusing on the desired results. |
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SCOTT: You spent a lot of years researching some of the greatest achievers. What things did you find that they had in common? CYNTHIA: In my first book I really talk about the “Seven Characteristics of Unstoppable People.” Those are the key things I think they have in common. There’s a “bigness” to them, a “bigness” of them—in living and giving and being and contributing. They’re just like us, but they see things in a bigger way, and they don’t let their own limitations stop them. SCOTT: They all seem to abolish any self-limiting beliefs. CYNTHIA: And those beliefs are always there. I’m sure these people deal with them as well, but they don’t let the limits stop them. They’re focused on what they’re doing, they have a purpose, they’re passionate, and they believe anything is possible. |
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SCOTT: Earlier you mentioned families in chiropractic care as another change you’ve seen in recent years. FAB: In the past, chiropractic was looked at as providing symptomatic relief, much like mainstream medicine. You see, we really don’t have a healthcare system, we have a disease care system. By that I mean a patient must already have some problem before they seek help for that problem. The premise of chiropractic is one of preventive care by checking the body to ensure that it is properly functioning in order to prevent disease from happening in the first place. Chiropractic is not simply there to relieve symptoms once a problem arises. Today’s chiropractic movement is introducing the wellness concept to the entire family. It’s not just for adults who have backaches due to playing golf or wrist pain because of being at the computer too long. Chiropractic Practitioners are finally taking the time to educate their patients to bring their children, parents, and grandparents in for treatment. |
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SCOTT: You’re recognized as one of the world’s leading authorities in the area of Quantum Resonance Fields (QRFs). First of all, fill us in on what QRFs are to begin with. DÕV: Everybody and every situation has a QRF—a quantum resonance field. The simplest example is that when you walk into a room, you feel a “vibe.” There’s an energy present that either attracts or repels. That’s the resonance of the room. Situations have a resonance—they feel comfortable or uncomfortable. People have a resonance also. When you walk into a room, you see a particular person, and feel a pull toward them for no conscious reason, that’s resonance. Resonance is the energy of a thing. For human beings, it’s their emotional energy. We have a personal emotional resonance field, the emotional history we carry around with us. Your emotional history is held in a quantum field, and it resonates out from you. The more you heal your emotional history, the cleaner your field becomes. |
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SCOTT: It’s obvious that you believe strongly in the vertical vision with horizontal execution. What else does it take to have a church grow? ED: You’ve got vision plus leaders and then add something else, commitment. You can talk about leaders, and you can talk about vision—those things are good. Leaders carry out the vision. They are intertwined like peanut butter and jelly, or chips and hot sauce. But you’ve also got to talk about commitment, because it takes a commitment by the leaders to the vision. It’s the commitment to reach up, reach out, and reach in, which really puts wheels beneath what God is doing when He wants to add and do something awesome like He has done, and is doing, and will do at Fellowship Church. I was really ignorant as a senior pastor. Recently we had several pastors from Florida shadow us in a leadership-training exercise. One of the pastors, Ron, specializes in training pastors on how to start churches, and we were talking about Fellowship Church. He said, “Ed, I don’t know if you know this or not, but 80 percent of churches that start up fail in the first year. They have to close the doors.” Eighty percent! That’s a lot! Think about how a church is started and after twelve months—boom! Then he continued, “And Ed, I’ll tell you something else. When I talk to all these pastors starting churches, if the church makes it past twelve months, most of the people will leave the church after eighteen months.” "Now,” I said, “I understand it. Now, I get it.” |
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SCOTT: How do you use chess to teach youth life skills? ORRIN: Number one is pattern recognition. Number two is, the only thing that can take you to your goals is your mind. So you have to be willing to use your mind, and follow through on good ideas. Most people don’t follow through. They have great ideas, but they never do anything about them. Successful people are successful because they make a habit of doing what unsuccessful people don’t do—bring their ideas into reality, to completion. So we get kids in the habit of taking action, following through using all of their resources. I use chess because it teaches responsibility. If you lose a game in chess, you have only yourself to blame. Your game will only get better when you get better. I teach it because it promotes will power. I was playing a guy the other day, and I lost my queen and both my rooks. And I told him, “I like my position”! He told me I was crazy, but I ended up checkmating him. Why? He got materialistic—looking only at what he could gain, but not understanding the whole pattern. In fact, I was playing Jack Canfield the other day in chess. He took my rook and a bishop. So he was winning, right? No! I ended up checkmating him. Why? He got greedy—trying to take too much, too fast. Greed will get you every time. |
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SCOTT: I’m intrigued by your comment “How you do anything is how you do everything”! Can you expand on that? HARV: Well, you know there are no isolated incidents. A lot of people say that they’re one way, but their actions show something else. Someone might say, “I’m a very participatory person. I’m very open, I’m very understanding, I’m very positive”! But then you see them in front of you, and they’re just sitting there, arms crossed, they won’t stand up, they won’t get involved. Their action shows that they’re not open. Put the heat on any person, and you’ll see what they’re really like. Talk is cheap. SCOTT: You said that two people sitting next to each other can have and share the exact same experience, and end with a different result. What makes that difference? HARV: The difference is their thinking pattern, their way of perceiving things, and primarily their blueprints for success or non-success. Most people have a blueprint for non-success based on their past programming. |
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SCOTT: Are there any particular programs or things that the employees can point to, to say, “We really do feel cared for?” TOM: Yes, one thing we do is encourage them to give back to the community. So we make a $500 donation if an employee or any one of their family members volunteers 30 hours in a year at a local charity. That makes them feel good, because they see we care about what they’re doing, and what they’re giving back to the communities they live in. |
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SCOTT: With so many plates spinning at one time, how do you keep things running so smoothly? DOUG: Focus and discipline! It’s really about delegating. I’ve been able to attract an incredible team of people who work with both companies. I have been very fortunate to learn how to create teamwork over the years in all the different businesses I’ve been involved with, and I think that plays an important role. As I have always told anybody who works with me, in order to make any dream work you have to make the team work. You have to be able to communicate effectively, and have an open forum for anyone working with you to share ideas and possibly implement something that might benefit you and the company. |
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SCOTT: In the 1994 U.S. Amateur you played against a young Tiger Woods. What’s it like to go toe to toe with Tiger? TRIP: It was great! That week, I played extremely well. Until recently, it was probably the best week of golf I’ve ever played. My father was my caddie, and I look at it as a week where a twenty-two-year-old could spend his time with his father. As far as the final match with Tiger, I birdied seven of the first thirteen holes, played great, and shot 66/73 and lost to arguably the greatest player of all time. It was neat because I had a personal relationship with Tiger prior to that match. He was probably best friends with my brother and sister on the AJGA junior tour growing up. Most people don’t know, but the first time that Tiger traveled without his father, he came to Dallas and stayed with my family to play in an event here at the Las Colinas Sports Club. I was in the most pressure-packed situation I had ever been in to that point, and I was able to rise to the occasion. That’s the memory that I take from it. |
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SCOTT: You’ve really made the sport of long driving what it is today. How does that make you feel? ART: Being a full-time competitor from 1986 until 1993 was everything for me. It really kept my career going. To win a couple times and knock on the door a couple other times is a great experience. It’s a shame that in the past long driving didn’t have the arena that it should have or the media support that it deserved. It was always a grass roots event with one division. With the LDA today, we have multiple divisions with far more participation and excitement. It’s so cool! Companies sell their products based on distance and power. It’s the most exciting part of golf. How far can you hit it? When Golf Digest came out in 1993, I felt that long drivers could possibly have a new arena, and that’s when I got involved full force. We found out in 2004 that it truly is a sport. We had over thirty hours of coverage in 2004. It’s a passion because kids just eat it up. They watch it on television. They want to hit it big. Even the seniors love it! We went from one division to eight divisions. Now we have people come across the pond to see if they can do it. It’s happening right before my eyes, and it’s a growing, living entity. I’m so glad that I’m running the sport as a former competitor, because I appreciate where it came from. We work to give the player what I didn’t have when I was at my peak. We give fans an incredible value when they come to watch the event. It’s a critical time in the sport’s evolution and we’re very excited with what’s going on. |
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SCOTT: That’s certainly one of the ways I’ve come to know you as well. What is the power of the MasterMind? JOHN: Well, I am a great believer in the power of stories and I think maybe the best way to answer your question is with a story about Andrew Carnegie. He came to this country as a very young man with two powerful and unique goals. One was to become exceedingly wealthy in the first half of his life, and the second one was to give all that money away in appreciation to America for all it had done for him. When Carnegie accomplished the first of those goals he began to wonder how it happened. So he made an agreement with a young reporter at the time, a young guy named Napoleon Hill, and they engaged in what we in modern day language might call a joint venture. Napoleon Hill was to go around and interview the 550 presidents of the largest corporations of America around the turn of the century about a hundred years ago. And basically just ask them one question, “What is it that’s made you so successful”? It took Napoleon Hill two years to do all those interviews. When he brought all of that research back, they went through it together and Carnegie was able to summarize it in two phrases. He said: “If you would be exceedingly successful in this life: 1) Know very clearly where it is you want to go, and 2) Be a member of a MasterMind group.” MasterMind is the power Carnegie and Hill discovered and named that helped Carnegie, Ford, Firestone, and all those great men reach such high levels of success. Hill explained: “No two minds ever come together without thereby, creating an invisible, intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.” The thoughts, energies, and passions of the individual members of each “MasterMind” group unite into a larger energy—the third mind that Hill talked about. The power of the MasterMind comes alive as the individual members of the group bounce their thoughts and ideas off each other. It is a magical, wonderful, and exciting process! |
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SCOTT: And as they grow, does it give them greater opportunity and flexibility in their lives? FREDDIE: It does! It allows them to share and give back, and it allows them to be gratified by being around individuals that like trading in the market and are enthusiastic about the same things. It allows them the ability to spread their knowledge as they grow. The whole idea of wisdom is to impart it to others. Our faculty love to see people grow. The great thing about the market is that whether we teach 100, 1,000, 1,000,000, or 10,000,000, these ways of profiting from the market, never hurts anyone. It actually helps the whole economic process. People get to do what they love, and they make more money. Ultimately, they are able to grow and contribute more—it’s a never ending circle—a force for good. SCOTT: I know there are many people who have become some really great success stories and experienced life changing moments in using their new education. Can you relate some examples? FREDDIE: Sure. Just last weekend, we had an event during which some people were sharing testimonials. I learned of a lady who gave her first $25,000 in stock market profits away to other individuals. She was there with one of the individuals she had given money to, early on in her trading career. That individual had, in turn, actually given money to somebody else and started them in the process. It’s tremendous and so personally rewarding to see that happen. Then we had a gentleman come and share with us his plans for the new church that they’re building, and how they were funding it through the stock market. It was great to be able to see the plans, the drawings, and the blueprints of the church and now, ground has been broken for the church, and they’re building it as we speak. |
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SCOTT: Amazing—you entered into an arena that you really had no expertise in. You heard the idea and went out to seek that expertise? NIKI: I had learned enough from that workshop, and the Internet is interesting enough that it’s not hard to get started. After seeing some results, the recognition came to seek wisdom from people who were already achieving success in that same arena. That’s been my life philosophy. If you want to be successful, don’t listen to just anybody, don’t buy just anybody’s tapes, don’t go to just anybody’s workshops. Go to the people who are in the position financially you desire or have achieved what you want to achieve and learn. That position could be miles apart from where you are now but you need to learn from the best. Seek out wisdom and other people’s expertise. Then hone the information from all these different sources and condense it into your own. I was already running another company; my time was at a premium and so I figured that I needed to condense all this information into a simpler, yet effective and successful plan to continue to support these orphans. |
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